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Gamblers Anonymous is always referred by state lottery helpline toll-free #s. Any others? In Georgia, the toll-free number for problem gamblers to call given out by the state lottery leads to a referral to Gamblers Anonymous. Can anyone in another state tell me any support group that is recommended other than GA?

Why does gamblers anonymous have to mention god? Ive come to admit that i have a gambling problem and i went to gamblers anonymous but i was put off by the fact that several of the steps include religious connotations. Im a staunch atheist and i feel there must be a way of fighting this addiction without going all religious.

Gamblers Anonymous? What are the odds they will pick up the phone on the 3rd ring ???

Any one know of an free good Gamblers Anonymous programs around Portsmouth, Ohio? Asking for a friend, she has a pretty biiig issue

Have you ever attended a Gamblers Anonymous meeting and then gambled on the way home?

Where is a gamblers anonymous group in the south suburbs of Chicago and when is the next meeting?

Do they serve coffee and donuts at Gamblers Anonymous? I lost around $1000 the past two weeks so i may be callin, lol

what percentage of people who go to gamblers anonymous are winners that want to stop?

If they give you a chip for being sober in alcoholics anonymous... What do they give you at gamblers anonymous?

should merchant bankers be forced to attend Gamblers Anonymous? so that they can curb their "habit"? their trillion dollar "habit"

Gamblers Anonymous meeting? I'm a gambling addict and desperately looking for help before I commit suicide, please tell me how do I attend one of those gamblers anonymous meeting and where can I find one in Dallas, Texas? This is going to be my first time going to those meeting, if you have any experiences please provide me with details, thank you for your helps.

gamblers anonymous and debt? i have a gambling problem and have just recently began 2 admit it 2 myself. first i started gambling sports through bookies and would only bet a few hundred as i didnt make that much at work. then i started 2 gradually up my bets 2 the point where i would win and owe thousands. i then moved onto another bookie and my gambling has started 2 become compulsive. i would call everyday, bet every game, and focus hours of time trying 2 pick a winner. i would gamble if i win and gamble more if i lose. if i win 1000$ and lose $100 i would risk it all just 2 win that $100 i lost back. now i find myself completely strapped for cash and i owe my bookie $5000 which i dont have. ive borrow money from friends, applied for loans, and stole. i have told 1 of my friends who has lent me money i am going 2 start going 2 gamblers anonymous once i stop gambling. but how do i stop when i owe money that i dont have and cant get? i only make $500 a week at my job and i also have credit card payments 2 make and other expenses. im 20 years old, live at home, work 40 hours a week, have only had my credit cards for 1/2 a year (meaning my credit isnt excellent yet). are there any programs or anything that will help me pay off my debt and help/support me 2 stop gambling? i dont expect them 2 just give me money, i prefer a loan so i can pay them back slowly but as soon as possible. i want 2 stop SO badly, but it is just so easy 2 pick up the phone and call. and it seems like the only and fastest way 2 get rid of my debt. and please dont tell me im stupid and its my own fault because I ALREADY KNOW THAT

what typically goes on at a gamblers anonymous (GA) meeting?

what is the gamblers anonymous phone number?

do you have any contact info about gamblers anonymous?

Al-anon, narc-anon, gamblers anonymous..... is there/should there be a ' net-anon ' ? I'm newly addicted and wondering how, short of getting a ' real ' life, to cure myself!! If there was a group for addicted surfers, would you/do you need to join?

does any one know about gamblers anonymous? i have a friend who needs to go to meetings for gmbling do they help

i urgently need a gamblers anonymous? i desperately am looking for a center for de addiction from gambling and problems related with it anywhere in India even holistic centre would do but please please someone out there please help its urgent.If it is in Kolkata better but if its anywhere else in India also would do please contact me soon tq

Do gamblers anonymous give 30 day coins and can I spend them at the casino?

Has anyone been to gamblers anonymous? Did it help you?

is there a group for gamblers anonymous in western NC? need to find one to quit this addiction

Did Someone Say "Gamblers Anonymous"? My mother has the same disorder as I do, Bi-Polar. My mother has a degree in nursing, near Masters. My mother has P.O.A. & Governs my money when it comes to SSDI. My mother would like to give the power to her husband, who is my Ex-Fiancee. My mothers Dr.s & care providers don't think that I am a good support system for her. They would like for me to go to G.A. groups alone in order to help her with her problem Her Psychiatrist also thinks that I should pay my mother back for blowing the money my mother gave me, which was hers. If I won any money, I ALWAYS give it to my mother, it was hers to begin with. Am I missing something here? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Dee

My previous question alluded to 'Gambling' & 'Gamblers Anonymous'.? Just want to say, "THANK YOU", to all who took the time to answer. My apologies go to all those who believed my question should NOT have been posted in the 'Religious' section. However, I believe the most honest answers will come from this group.

£512 billion.... Should Alastair Darling sign up for gamblers anonymous? Even Paul Merson never gambled such huhe amounts..... I cannot help, even in my limited knowledge of the world of economics, reading Monsieur Darling's budget precis and hearing the words utter in my head 'ruin', 'the', 'UK' and 'economy'. Also, if you look into his budget carefully, you reallise that all but the poorest working families are not really going to be better off, in the long term at least. With one hand Darling firmly puts a 2.5% drop in VAT in your chest pocket; with the other hand he raches into your wallet for an additional 0.5% in National Insurance. For anyone who has bothered to look into it, do you feel Darling's various 'moves' in the budget are good or bad? Mike H:- One has to really see Darling's actions, I feel, as a representation of the exact borrowing problems encouraged to consumers in recent years, on a macroscopic scale. Your example really does put it in a nutshell. Cowayvalley:- Good to hear from you!!!! I agree, and as others here who have answered the Q will testify, I have spoken out how the onus should always be with people taking out mortgages are large loans. However, my point is that the government are, with this budget, not really hitting enough of a problem. It is fairly obvious withouth in-depth analysis tha the new upper threshold tax is useless. Just like someone who earns £50 per annum over £36,000 (not sure if this is the threshold!) will only be taxed 40% on that £50, so too the same will apply on the £150,000. This should have been 75%, at least.

Anonymous gamblers? Going with two 6 game parlays tonight. Tell me your picks as compared to mine. NYR over Pitt Over 6 Atl over Toronto Over 6.5 Ana over St.L Under 5 Chi over Columbus Under 5 Edm over Colorado Over 5.5 LAK over Nashville Under 6 Gonna do one 6 as teams and one as Over/under. Anybody see it differently? Zam- Pens also give up 3.43 per game and tend to get into shoot-outs. However, you raise a good point with the NYR Lundqvist and their inability to score. Puckdat- My biggest struggle was not taking the Kings to win but taking it under, my instincts told me to take that one over actually so that one was a hunch call and now that you mention it, I don't like the decision I made.

Is it true that McCain is a compulsive gambler? Come on now, Liars anonymous and now gamblers anonymous? Well as long as he stays in recovery, I guess that's cool.

How do you tell your husband that hisgambling is affecting everything even the sex? without alot of heartbreak I do olove the guy but I am really tired. and he has been to gamblers anonymous just to come out with other people's secrets. I am ready to leave him over this so please only the serious need answer

Do you think someone can recover from a gambling addiction by reading the medical books and online discussion? I am curious to the opinions of others. Do you think that someone can recover from a compulsive gambling problem by reading online materials and other resources, or do you think it is necessary for that person to attend Gamblers Anonymous Meetings or other recovery meetings of some kind?

If someone is in debt due to a gambling problem do you help them financially? My boyfriend is going to gamblers anonymous meetings now to get better. But he just lost his job because he stole money from them and he has 30 days to pay it back. Do I help him financially so he doesn't get in any more trouble? So he can for sure stay out of jail and continue getting help?

How can I be support of my husband's gambling problem? I want to help him, but I don't think he wants to help himself. How can I be supportive without coming across as pressuring him to stop. He says he wants to get help but after one session at gamblers anonymous he said he's nothing like any of them and didn't go back. But he has stolen money from me in the past and I never see any of the money he earns even though he has a very well paid job. I don't know what to do. And please don't say leave him, because that's just not an option right now.

How do I stop my poker addiction? I've banned myself from all casinos in California. Yet I still play everytime I get a paycheck. I would lose either the first or second day and have no money for 2 weeks. I've tried Gamblers Anonymous, it doesn't help for me. I still go play right after the meetings. What should I do? I don't play online, just live poker games at casino. I am thinking of telling the secuity guard at the door, but I don't want to be arrested.

Is it time for me to get a serious punishment spanking? I have gotten totally outa line with gambling on lottery tickets. Spending to where my bills are behind. The reccomendation of a friend is. A serious bare bottomed punishment spanking and go to gamblers anonymous. Is she right?

Do anyone know of any local gambling help for people who live in Illinois south suburbs? I am addicted to gambling. I want to stop but I can't on my own. I am addicted to video slots which are like the crack cocaine of gambling. Not Gamblers anonymous because you wont always stay that way, just other ways. I called the casino hotline, not much help there. The closest is Joliet, Il which is too far and chaotic to reach. Any helpers?

When should I pay the money that I will lose in this bet? I bet my friend $5 that the Lions will beat the Pats the next time they play each other (in Det next year). When's a good time to pay the money? BQ: What's the phone number to Gamblers Anonymous?

Attention Compulsive Gamblers - Please Help? I am the wife of a complusive gambler who spent over 100K in British Pounds Gambling, that was 3 years ago, he was going to gamblers anonymous for 3 years but has not been for 6 months as he says he no longer needs it and he won't do it again. A month ago he said we are over and he's mixed up about whether or not he wants to be with me. We still live in the same house but have seperate rooms, he is nice to me but cannot pay me off in order for me to sign the house over to him and cannot commit to making a go of it. I am also in debt as a result of trying to enable to live over the past 3 years. I cannot move out until he pays me off. I love him and want the marriage to work but can;t help thinking he is gambling again, his personality has changed, he used to be lovely, now he seems to be living in a dream world where he seems unable to communicate with me about our marriage. Can anyone give me any idea as to what is going on in his head. He says he is not gambling now.

how can i get out of my payday loans? hi im kenji and im 22 yrs old... i used to be a compulsive gambler but ive been in the gamblers anonymous program for the past 2 weeks now... i got a total of 7 payday loans, two of which have open interest... what should i do to pay them off? do you know something that will lend me a big sum of money and pay them off monthly.

Gambler's Anonymous Meetings.... What does it mean, "closed meeting" at the bottom of the address? Baldwinsville G.A. 6:30- 8:30 PM Community Wesleyan Church 555 Bower Street Baldwinsville, NY Closed Meeting Many other postings for meetings don't say that, but there are those few that do.

Can anyone find me the speech Al Pacino says in Two For The Money about gamblers being lemons? He's says a speech at the Gamber's Anonymous about gamblers being lemons who want to lose so they feel alive. Can anyone find this speech and post it here. I tried but couldn't find it. Thanks in advance. here is part of it. He tells his fellow degenerate gamblers that their problem isn't gambling, it's themselves: "We're all lemons. We need to lose." When they lose everything -- the job, the house, the family -- they are most fully alive, he says. When they win, they keep gambling until they lose again.

What would you do if you found out your husband was internet gambling? my husband has been hiding internet gambling for 6months. He is now going to gamblers' anonymous meetings, but I am still so mad at him. He has accumulated alot of unnessary debt. I don't know how to regain trust back. We have been married 12 years now-

Why don't people realize Vick went to jail for Gambling not Dog fighting? Vick didn't go to jail for animal cruelty, he went for illegal gambling and not paying taxes on it, so what does animal rights have to do with boycotting him, maybe if you are in gamblers anonymous you should boycott him. He killed dogs bred to fight, these were not pets but killers themselves, A dog fight dog is a weapon not man's best friend, you simple minded fake cry babies

Does anyone know from experience whether or not an online gambler can acutally quit? My husband has admitted to gambling online and says he will never do it again. He is going to gamblers anonymous meetings and working more to pay off his debt from this activity. I am worried about the future. Is it possible for him to quit if he says he will? I don't want to live like this in the future, and want to know if I should give him just one chance or not? We have been married twelve years and have an eleven year old son-

My gambler's anonymous group all bet me $200 I would take another bet and fail the group. What should I do?

What Should I Do - my husband is a gambler We are both on Disability? & can't afford this. I dion't gamble but have another vice Do NOT Suggest Gamblers Anonymous

I know I should join 'Gambler's Anonymous' ... but, I never do it.? I 've gone to casinoes 5 times this year. Believe me, that 's far below my average from previous years. When I go, I have it in my head that I have to win. I don 't leave a slot machine until it hits ... Big-Time ! Naturally, this very seldom happens. When I leave, I 've lost my shirt ... and a lot of hard-earned money. How stupid ! ... supporting The Mafia ! I know there 's a bunch of professional help out there, however, .... Give me your best shot, your own opinion, or your advice.

What would Gambler's Anonymous think of this? For research purposes for creative writing.? I heard on the radio today about something some philosopher said (I think it was Pascal) and it made me think, It said that believing in God is like gambling. You could live like you do or don't, but he doesn't exist so it doesn't matter. Or you could like like you do or don't and he does exist, therefore one action sends you up and the other sends you down. I am in a creative writing class and would like to use this, but want to be able to use this in the right context. I heard on the radio today about something some philosopher said (I think it was Pascal) and it made me think, It said that believing in God is like gambling. You could live like you do or don't, but he doesn't exist so it doesn't matter. Or you could like like you do or don't and he does exist, therefore one action sends you up and the other sends you down. I am in a creative writing class and would like to use this, but want to be able to use this in the right context. Also, please note that I will not be offended by anything said. Also, please note that I will not be offended by anything said. Can you tell I'm new at this? Anyway, to add yet another note and some more background, the character I am currently working with is a degenerate gambler who has cleaned himself up with GA. I am trying to ascertain what his position would be on the subject.

Is it unheard of for a 21 year old to be in Ganbler's Anonymous? I am 21, just recently turned 21, and have developed an addiction to gambling. I have always had problems when it comes to addicting things (not necessarily drugs or alcohol) but gambling has really been a problem for me. I am considering enrolling in a Gambler's Anonymous program so that I can stop the addiction but I feel odd because I am so young. Is it unheard of for someone my age to be enrolled in such a program? Are there any other, more private resources or programs that are available such as 1 on 1? Thank you.

Should Obama and his minions be forced to attend GA " Gambler's Anonymous? First stimulus " 787 billion " didn't do anything so lets keep spending and maybe when something, anything good happens they can act like they hit the ( JACKPOT )? Even per you folks Bush's spending put us into the recession, so how will Obama spending 10 times as much in a year 1/2, 4 times as much as Bush in his 8 years, make things better? Help me understand, please !!!!!! First almost a TRILLION did nothing of significance so let's spend more? Obama reminds me of the old lady at the slot machine steadily feeding quarters into it always thinking if she keep spending maybe she'll hit the jackpot. So now its not Bush's fault? Make up your minds !!!!!

my friend wants to sell his trailer and buy lottery tickets for the big jackpot, how can I stop him? he won't go to gambler anonymous

My boyfriend turned into a big-time gambler.. Should I call that gamber anonymous hotline on him? He puts his whole pay check on one hand of roulette and half of his money is on black. He says he knows what he's doing but I'm not quite sure because he visits the ATM quite often. Should I worry or is this a phase?

how do i stop gambling? Without gamblers anonymous...I don't like the religious part of it. Is there a good book? Please only respond if you have this addiction. it doesn't really help if you say "find another hobby", if you don't understand this addiciton.

Is the group counselor being a jerk? I'm in gambler's anonymous. At one of the meetings me and another patient were playing this game and having the loser pay the winner 25 cents. Evidently the group counselor claimed this game was gambling and called us out?? Just press some random buttons and see if you find this in ANY way gambling http://sylarbrain.mybrute.co m lane, I would admit it if I were in any way gambling. I mean I go to group sessions so it's not like I'm in denial. But I just don't see how this is gambling.

Why do people come on here for answers to serious questions? When it comes to things like mood disorders, or suicidal ideaology, or addictions, etc... why ask people on the net? Most of the people are just on here reading these questions waiting to respond with A**hole answers, which aren't gonna make you feel any better about your situation, it'll actually probably make you feel worse. Don't get me wrong, I applaud anyone who finally has the strength to admit that they see something may be a little "off", that takes courage, but this isn't the place that's best for you. For addictions, even gambling and shopping (I've seen both), there is help out there- addiction specialists. They're not just for drugs/alcohol. Gambler's anonymous comes to mind readily. If you are thinking of suicide, please seek out the help of a trusted friend, family member, school counselor, employee program (a lot of jobs have people for employees to speak to now), therapist, or community center, if you don't have insurance. e-mail me if you want as well I have exp. peace

What would you do about your husband's gambling? My husband of 12 years has been internet gambling and hiding it for 6 months. I am 36 years old and I thought we were finally on the same page with our goals in life at this point. We were finally getting ahead on everything, and now I found out he has alot of debt accumulated from this. I talked to a lawyer, and turns out I would not be responsible for paying his debt from this, but I am very upset with him. He is going to gambler's anonymous meetings and says he will get a second job to pay this off himself. For some reason though, I am having real difficulty getting through this. I couldn't even go to work today because I couldn't sleep last night.

Because of my gambling problems,we had to...? We had to file a CONSUMER PROPOSAL meaning one step lower than a BANKRUPTCY! My loans & my wife was max out on all her credit lines,i'm laid off from work to life is not all great now! I am going now to GAMBLER ANONYMOUS MEETINGS now for help! I let my wife and young son down! How do i start over and make a better life for us now and the future?

would anyone leave their husband if they found out he was hiding internet gambling? He now has alot of debt that I didn't know about too. He is working a second job to pay it off and going to Gamblers anonymous meetings as well. Should I give him one chance or not?

I am an addictive gambler and my best friend plays poker 24/7...Help!!? My best friend is in my life a lot, whether its seeing movies, going to restaurants, whatever. We spend a ton of time together. I am pretty broke, and I think I might have a gambling problem. My biggest problem is that my friend is obsessed with poker, and since he plays a lot, I end up playing a lot because I can't resist. I consider myself a pretty good player, but I am super unlucky. When I'm away from home I don't play at all, maybe once in a blue moon. I was thinking of going to gamblers anonymous, but I know that they'll tell me to stop hanging out with my friend. What should I do? I feel bad telling my friend we gotta stop hanging out cause his life honestly revolves around poker and I can't resist.

Do you live with a Compulsive Gambler? Hi, my husband had a gambling addiction 3 years ago, which he sought help for through Gamblers Anonymous and he attended there for 3 years, however 6 months ago he stopped going and now we are living seperate lives under the same roof, we don't have children and are both 30 somethings. He will not say either way if he wants our marriage to work or not, he just says he's mixed up, I have booked a weeks holiday on my own to go away and have a think, thing is how long would you stay in this situation or would you just leave, other thing why should i leave my home and have to go back to Mum's until he can pay me off, he also has a 50k debt. What's your experiance of living with a compulsive gambler? I love him and want to make it work but he will not go to GA or marriage counselling and I cannot wait forvever. What would you do????

I'm an online gambler who wants to quit. Is there a way to customize your internet to ban all gambling sites? I feel I have an issue with online gaming, but only online gaming, so I really don't want to do something like Gamblers Anonymous or anything like that. I truly feel that I can take care of my problem by restricting myself. It's worked in the past but I've been able to find loopholes when I have extra cash to throw around. There are hundreds of online casinos, so I can't go to every one individually and tell them not to give me an account. Any ideas?

My bestfriend is a GAMBLER. How can I help her? My bestfriend is gambling her life away. Six years ago, she had +500,000 in her bank account. Now, she owes $200,000. She has a business and earns good money. At home, she lives a simple life (no extravagance) with her aging mom. Unfortunately, she has a dark secret. The past 6 years, she has turned into a high-roller gambling away thousands per hand on black jack. She is now very dependent on gambling and she recognizes her addiction but she ABSOLUTELY does not want to sign out from the casinos nor does she want to attend Gamblers Anonymous meetings. She also made me promise not to tell any of our friends and family. I feel pressured every time she talks about her bills. I don't know what to do. I see her situation getting worse. She tells me that she hates gambling and wish she can stop---BUT that she cannot because of her bills. She is always hopeful because she counts the occasional winnings but she does not count the 'more-frequent' losses. HELP!! Any suggestions?

Are you married/going out with a Compulsive Gambler? Please can you tell me how they treat you? Are they nasty? Cruel? Unkind? Emotionally Draining? I think my husband is gambling again, he did this 3 years ago, sought help at Gamblers Anonymous but stopped going 7 months ago and since then has changed his personality to being awkward and not putting effort into our marriage. We have huge debts from the previous gambling and I cannot afford to move out until he can re-mortgage and pay me my share of equity, so please don't say 'leave' as I cannot without funds, I work full time and earn a good wage but most of my money goes on debt and bills. We don't have kids, thank god. Do Compulsive Gamblers ever quit or is the addiction for life? Is this why he no longer puts effort into our marriage and says he isn't sure if he wants the marriage to work or not. I'm 33 he's 36 and I am at my wits end.

What Prank Should I Play on my Coworker? We have a christmastime game where we are assigned a coworker. We have to tell them (through anonymous email) what they have to do to earn their gift! So far we have had a lot of skipping and carrolling in the halls. I even saw an interpretive dance to The Owl and the Pussycat. One guy had to sing "The Gambler" by Kenny Rogers to the whole office. Ideas anyone? Thanks!!

Different groups? What kind of anonymous groups are there out there? I am just really curious. I know of AA (alcholics anonymous), NA (narcotics anonymous), and I have heard of but don't know if they are true: Sexual Compulsives anonymous, over eaters anonymous, gamblers anonymous, etc... Is there some list somewhere of all the different groups? I couldn't find any on the net, so any help would be great.

Should I try to get therapy for gambling too much, or just quit and go to Gambler's Anonymous? (Do I also need the boot camp?)

My wife wants to divorce me - but I don't believe in divorce and I think we need to stay married. Am I wrong? We've been married for eight years. I had a gambling addiction, and lied to her about it. I wasn't always the best husband, but I was pretty good. Now I am dealing with my addiction (Gamblers Anonymous meetings, counseling) and my life is turning around for the better. She still says she wants out and she will never trust me again. I love her and we have three young children. I don't believe in divorce - from a personal standpoint and a religous standpoint. What should I do?

gambling addiction? I need help, I have a gambling addiction, does anyone know of any on-line sites that would be helpful. I have been to gamblers anonymous sites, and basically, they confirm that I have an addiction. There are no gamblersanonymous meetings with-in a 2 to 3 hour ride from my home, so I was looking for some kind of on-line support. Any help is appreciated. Thank you

Any new moms who are in recovery? Any new moms in a 12-Step program such as Narcotics Anonymous, Alcoholics Anonymous, Overeaters Anonymous, Gamblers Anonymous, Sex Addicts Anonymous, Alanon, Narcanon, Alateen etc.? If so, how's is going for you? Do you get to many meetings with new baby? Are you able to do servicework? Are people helpful in giving rides to and from meetings, if you need them? Have you ever been asked to leave a closed meeting because of baby? Anything else you'd like to add or share? Shout-outs to homegroups welcome and appreciated, as well as sobriety/recovery dates. My homegroup is the Thursday Noon Brownbaggers Group. I've been clean and sober since January 29, 2006. Connor's Mommy...try Alanon for 90 days. If you don't like it, they'll refund your misery in full. Put half the effort into Alanon that you put into fretting over the alkie in your life, and you'll be golden. We are miracles! Hugs for reintroducing! Kat- that so does count. I don't know the name of the anorexia support group. My family came to my family sessions in rehab and it meant the world to me. Hugs and prayers.

Any new mothers that are in recovery...? ...through a 12-step program such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Overeaters Anonymous, Gamblers Anonymous etc., that care to break their anonimity? And if so, how has it been, now that you're a mom? Is your sponsor helpful? Does your homegroup welcome kids? Have you ever been asked to leave a closed meeting? Are you still able to do service work? Anything else you'd like to add or share, please? My home group is the Thursday noon Brownbaggers Meeting, northeast PA area. Brief summary of my own experience: The Promises, that are read in many A.A. Meetings can be found on page 83-84, of the Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous. THE A.A. PROMISES If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and selfpity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves

My Marriage is in a mess - HELP!!!!? I am the wife of a complusive gambler who spent over 100K in GBP Gambling, that was 3 years ago, he was going to gamblers anonymous for 3 years but has not been for 6 months as he says he no longer needs it and he won't do it again. A month ago he said we are over and he's mixed up about whether or not he wants to be with me. We still live in the same house but have seperate rooms, he is nice to me but cannot pay me off in order for me to sign the house over to him and cannot commit to making a go of it. I am also in debt as a result of trying to enable to live over the past 3 years. I cannot move out until he pays me off. I love him and want the marriage to work but can;t help thinking he is gambling again, his personality has changed, he used to be lovely, now he seems to be living in a dream world where he seems unable to communicate with me about our marriage. Can anyone give me a idea as to what is going on in his head. He says he is not gambling now. Both mid 30's no kids.

What is going on with my husband....? My husband is a compulsive gambler, as far as I know he is not gambling now. He did attend Gamblers Anonymous for 3 years but now does not go as he does not want the constant reminder and feels like he is being treated like a child at the meetings. He says his debt is reminder enough. 3 months ago he decided he was no longer sure if he wanted to continue being married to me or if he wanted to 'set me free' and not have to be answerable to me. We are currently in the process of legally having the finances sorted out to enable us to go our seperate ways. He says he may well live to regret his decision to finish our marriage, although he does not want a divorce yet but at the moment cannot put the effort into our marriage to make it work. He wants us to remain friends, says he loves me but not sure if he is 'in love' with me. Says the problem is with him not me, he does not feel able to put the work into saving our marriage. Have you any idea what he's thinking, please help. We have been married almost 8 years and have been quite happy before this, never any major problems. I love him and would like to make our marriage work but he will not discuss the problems in our marriage and says he just does not know if he wants me or not. I am going away for a week soon for some space to think. Will this make him see what life will be like without me?

What are some examples in this paragraph? Gambling is exploding across America, from the mega-resorts of Las Vegas to the gaming parlors of indian reservations, from the riverboats along the Mississippi to the corner of mini-marts selling lottery tickets. Now, with all but 3 states, Hawaii, Tennessee, and Utah, sanctioning legalized gambling, evidence is mounting that society is paying a steep price. In 1997 bettors blew a whopping $50.9 billion-roughly five times the amount lost in 1980. That's more than the public spent on movies, theme parks, recorded music, and sporting events combined. Of those losses ans estimated 30% pours from problem gamblers.... Compulsive gambling has been linked to child abuse, domestic violence, bankruptcies, welfare and other criminal ills. A survey of 228 members of Gamblers Anonymous found that almost half admitted to insurance fraud, embezzlement, or arson. Today, 37 states run their own lotteries---generating almost $12 billion in net income-- and spend millions on seductive advertisements. "When the cigarette industry did this to Joe Camel, the country was outraged" says Valerie Lorenz, executive director of the Compulsive Gambling Center in Baltimore. "Now our government is doing it".

Do you think this was the right thing to do? (Long!)? My boyfriend is going through a really rough period in his life. He's really depressed. He gave me a letter yesterday saying that he's blown all of his money, and pay on gambling which seems to be his only escape but it's destroying his life. He said it's so hard dealing with everything, and the guilt he feels for letting me down and expecting me to help him is getting too much. He's hit rock bottom. I left a note in his letterbox this morning saying that guilt is a wasted emotion, and with regards to me DON'T feel guilty - if I wanted to walk away I would have. And that I know I can't fix his problems and cure his depression, but that doing little things (like buying him food) to get him through is all I can do to help and I'm happy to do it, because I feel helpless watching him get more & more depressed knowing I can't do anything to fix it. And that there is help if he needs it, I wrote down the gamblers hotline number and also gamblers anonymous, and a free counselling service that he can go to. I didn't push him to get help, I just let him know what's out there, and that I'm here for him anytime. Do you think that was okay?

Where can I meet a girl for a relationship? I'm 26 years old and I live in New York City. I've joined gamblers anonymous because of a gambling problem that I had up till about 6 weeks ago. I don't have too many guy friends who introduce me to girls. I think I'm smart(I'm in law school), funny, and pretty good looking. I just don't know where to meet girls and to maintain a relationship. I went to a cool 80's bar Saturday night and met some nice girls but nothing will develop and nothing has ever developed from that scene. Actually, I've had more success when I was younger in that scene, now I can't seem to get any traction. Does anyone have any clue what I should do. Because I'm really getting down on myself when I shouldn't because I have a good job (paralegal) and a great apartment and food everyday and I'm really healthy and I love to rollerblade it's just I have no girlfriend and it really really bothers me. I do have this one girl who wants me to be her boyfriend but I don't want to. I want to try another girl. new york law

Wow! I received such a great response from my question and some very thoughtful answers and some? really mean answers telling me to commit suicide. The latter should be ashamed of themselves as I am in a very difficult situation. I am 26 years old and have maintained a perfect credit score since 18. I had alot of money and I spent alot of money as a successful day trader. I made some big wins back in November and it drove me crazy and I followed the big win with huge losses. I am now 125k in debt and 125k in student debt which is deferred until I graduate law school. Does anyone have any advice on how to pay the credit cards I earn 47k as a paralegal and I am current on all my payments. I have joined gamblers anonymous and my last trade was 29 days ago. Thank you

Girls! Where do you hang out? I'm 26 years old and I live in New York City. I've joined gamblers anonymous because of a gambling problem that I had up till about 6 weeks ago. I don't have too many guy friends who introduce me to girls. I think I'm smart(I'm in law school), funny, and pretty good looking. I just don't know where to meet girls and to maintain a relationship. I went to a cool 80's bar Saturday night and met some nice girls but nothing will develop and nothing has ever developed from that scene. Actually, I've had more success when I was younger in that scene, now I can't seem to get any traction. Does anyone have any clue what I should do. Because I'm really getting down on myself when I shouldn't because I have a good job (paralegal) and a great apartment and food everyday and I'm really healthy and I love to rollerblade it's just I have no girlfriend and it really really bothers me. I do have this one girl who wants me to be her boyfriend but I don't want to. I want to try another girl.

I have 125 thousand in credit card debt and a 125 thousand dollars in student loans which are not payable yet? beacause i'm still in law school. I make 47k a year now but the minimum payments are 2300 a year and interest on these debts is about 1000 a month. I took the money out to invest in the stock market, I am now a member of Gamblers Anonymous because after doing thuis successfully for 6 years I had some big wins and then I started a quick slide from 250,000 in the bank to in debt. Any suggestions on dealing with my creditors in terms of calling them up and asking for some kind of extended payment plan or the like. I am not late on any payments. and i have available another approximately 40,000 I have always maintained a perfect credit score and in the past I was earning 150k a year.

Where can I meet a girlfriend? I'm 26 years old and I live in New York City. I've joined gamblers anonymous because of a gambling problem that I had up till about 6 weeks ago. I don't have too many guy friends who introduce me to girls. I think I'm smart(I'm in law school), funny, and pretty good looking. I just don't know where to meet girls and to maintain a relationship. I went to a cool 80's bar Saturday night and met some nice girls but nothing will develop and nothing has ever developed from that scene. Actually, I've had more success when I was younger in that scene, now I can't seem to get any traction. Does anyone have any clue what I should do. Because I'm really getting down on myself when I shouldn't because I have a good job (paralegal) and a great apartment and food everyday and I'm really healthy and I love to rollerblade it's just I have no girlfriend and it really really bothers me. I do have this one girl who wants me to be her boyfriend but I don't want to. I want to try another girl.

How can I meet girls in NYC? I'm 26 years old and I live in New York City. I've joined gamblers anonymous because of a gambling problem that I had up till about 6 weeks ago. I don't have too many guy friends who introduce me to girls. I think I'm smart(I'm in law school), funny, and pretty good looking. I just don't know where to meet girls and to maintain a relationship. I went to a cool 80's bar Saturday night and met some nice girls but nothing will develop and nothing has ever developed from that scene. Actually, I've had more success when I was younger in that scene, now I can't seem to get any traction. Does anyone have any clue what I should do. Because I'm really getting down on myself when I shouldn't because I have a good job (paralegal) and a great apartment and food everyday and I'm really healthy and I love to rollerblade it's just I have no girlfriend and it really really bothers me. I do have this one girl who wants me to be her boyfriend but I don't want to. I want to try another girl.