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How do you tell your husband that hisgambling is affecting everything even the sex?

without alot of heartbreak I do olove the guy but I am really tired. and he has been to gamblers anonymous just to come out with other people's secrets. I am ready to leave him over this so please only the serious need answer

Public Comments

1. tell him that he is gambling not only his life but your life and emotions and you need someone stable enough to actually have a life outside of gambling, my heart is with you and i hope you find the right answer
2. The simplest would be to do exactly what you said: leave him. I'm not being facetious here. Apparently, therapy and interventions haven't been working for him, especially if he sees the meetings as the next best thing since "Gambling for Dummies". The bottom line is... if he's too selfish and wrapped up in his gambling to pay attention to you and your relationship together, then the relationship is not going anywhere. You've already given him the ultimatum: pick either you, or the gambling. He's picked the gambling. So now you need to leave him. It'll make your life better & happier, and it won't hurt him either -- the gambling's already doing that for him.
3. Gambling is an addiction which leads to othe undesirable actions in order to obtain a quick fix. Just follow your heart and do what is best for you. For God's sake do not stay in the relationship and become a victim of his selfish actions.
4. What Tango says is true. Gambling can be an addiction, and GA doesn't help for everyone. There are more direct treatment options available- therapy and even medication. Take the problem seriously but he doesn't? That's real trouble no matter what the addiction is! I recommend calling your doctor and getting a reference to a psychiatrist who specializes in gambling addiction specifically. It might take some work to get the right people involved, but it might save your marriage.