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What would you do if you found out your husband was internet gambling?

my husband has been hiding internet gambling for 6months. He is now going to gamblers' anonymous meetings, but I am still so mad at him. He has accumulated alot of unnessary debt. I don't know how to regain trust back. We have been married 12 years now-

Public Comments

1. Gamblers Anonymous is a good start, but you should also get marriage counselling. You need to work past the anger and work on the trust issues. Since finances are a problem, you can get free marriage counselling from your local church or possibly through your doctor depending on where you live and health insurance.
2. There is never a reason to be deceptive to your spouse. But he appears to be dealing with his probelm. Please be a part of the solution and not another part of the problem. I am sure he is repentant to his family for putting them at financial risk. Be there to support him any way you can.
3. He is doing exactly what he should, he is trying to get better. I am sure you are very upset, I would bee to, however he is trying to solve a problem that he has admitted he has. The first thing I would do is make sure neither of you have any credit cards. This way you can simply pay them off and not accumulate more debt. Plus if you have no credit cards he cant play these games. You said for richer or poorer...right now its poorer. Give him a chance to fix the problem and get help for himself.
4. Of course you are angry and I would be too. You are just going to have to try hard to gain trust back if you want to be married for another 12 years. As you know gambling is just like a drug addiction and you have to give him credit for going to the meetings for it. I am not saying "Poor him" it is just that is a big step. As long as he keeps up with that I think you should stick by his side and your anger will slowly subside, hopefully anyway. We say for better or WORSE and just think that is a big WORSE for him. I am guessing you are still (O.K.) financially at least, I know you said there is debt but who doesn't have debt no-a-days. That stinks yours is from that though. I wish you luck with your anger and trust and you can do it if you want to. Keep strong and make sure he keeps up with his end of the bargain to continue with his meetings and getting help. P.S. Maybe there are support groups for those living with someone addicted to gambling. I bet if you surfed the net you might be able to find out if there is anything.