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would anyone leave their husband if they found out he was hiding internet gambling?

He now has alot of debt that I didn't know about too. He is working a second job to pay it off and going to Gamblers anonymous meetings as well. Should I give him one chance or not?

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1. Everyone deserves a chance. Fortunately he is trying to deal with the addiciton and isn't denying there is a problem. Give the guy another chance but only one. Good luck to both of you.
2. no not unles the internet gambling is majorly impacting on the family and urself... if its money he can afford to gamble then let him.... if not have a realy long descusion about it...and if he continues to gamble then leave. Dont let an addiction ruin u or ur familys lives.
3. Imagine your husband learns you have have cancer? Should your husband leave you? Gambling addiction is an illness and if he is getting help you should support him and help him get through it, but you need to take control of your family finances. It is for his own good. If he is serious about stopping then he should submit to this. You are better able to control the money if he has a gambling problem.
4. Did he come clean with you or did you find out? I wouldnt leave if he's trying to fix it and he getting help...but I wouldnt let him take me down with him.
5. Give him another chance... After all, he is your husband right?? The main reason your husband is hiding this internet gambling to you is that because he doesn't want you to worry and also because he doesn't want you to leave him... You know he loves you... Do you?? If you do... then forgive him... give him another chance... What do you know... Maybe he'll change...
6. Yes, you should give him a second chance. It is very terrible that he hid debt from you but he is obviously trying to rectify the problem. He's your husband so you should stand by him. Good luck!
7. I wouldn't leave considering he is taking responsibility by working to pay off the debt he accrued, and getting help to deal with his problem. I would be very supportive this time along with setting some ground rules and where you stand with things. Be honest, be prepared to follow through if necessary. Good luck!
8. addictions are hard to face up to. the fact that he's taking responsibility for it - going to ga & working to pay off the debt - is a great sign! i think he is showing that he deserves another chance. i wouldn't think of leaving. talk to him about ways that you can be supportive while he is going through this. find ways to cut back the household budget to help pay off the new debts, suggest installing controls on the computer to monitor where he visits or limit his access, support the long hours he is working now by picking up some of his household chores, etc. this is not something he can do on his own. good luck!
9. No don't leave him. Just get rid of his computer. Besides any debt incurred while married is yours too so what do you have to gain by leaving him?
10. First off you should be practical and take measures to protect whatever assets you can. You might need to speak with a family attorney to make sure you do this properly. Then, if your husband is taking measures to correct the problem, which it sounds like he is, he deserves for you to stick by him and give him a chance. You should also see if there are support groups that you can attend to understand him better. Good Luck.
11. Seek help first before leaving, but there is a violation of trust here
12. Been there done that. When I found out, my husband was over $50,000 in debt and losing his career of 20 years. As his wife for almost all of those 20 years I was pissed. However, as his bestfriend, I know how hard it was to tell his wife, (me) about the gambling let alone the debt. I told him that now that it's out in the open he has to fix it. He did get a second job and quit cold turkey, that was almost 4 years ago. He doesn't even buy a lottery scratch ticket. I trust him and we worked through it. The debts are paid and we are closer than ever because he knows that I have his back not matter what. Give him another chance to get his debt paid and work through this. You're holding up your end of the marriage by giving him another chance. You'll know when enough is enough that's if he doesn't change. Best of luck.
13. For better, for worse In sickness and in health Richer, poorer.. you get the idea. Too many people say these words and never mean them. He is getting help and I think you should support him in his recovery. Gambling is an addiction...a disease..what if he hid he had cancer from you? Would you consider leaving him then?