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Are you married/going out with a Compulsive Gambler?

Please can you tell me how they treat you? Are they nasty? Cruel? Unkind? Emotionally Draining? I think my husband is gambling again, he did this 3 years ago, sought help at Gamblers Anonymous but stopped going 7 months ago and since then has changed his personality to being awkward and not putting effort into our marriage. We have huge debts from the previous gambling and I cannot afford to move out until he can re-mortgage and pay me my share of equity, so please don't say 'leave' as I cannot without funds, I work full time and earn a good wage but most of my money goes on debt and bills. We don't have kids, thank god. Do Compulsive Gamblers ever quit or is the addiction for life? Is this why he no longer puts effort into our marriage and says he isn't sure if he wants the marriage to work or not. I'm 33 he's 36 and I am at my wits end.

Public Comments

1. hey i am a compulsive gambler and i love my woman....i win and i lose, i got diamond club status at all harrah's casinos...i have 2 kids college paid in full, i drive a lexus, my wife a mercedes...so don't generalize and don't compare others to your looser husband
2. STRAIGHT TO THE POINT--Yes he can quit if he really wants to. He is being selfish right now that is why he doesn't give a damn about u are the marriage. So why do u care? I guess because u love him right? Well if he loved u at all he would do what is right. U said it right Thank God for not having any kids, this would make matters worse because they would be around to see it. If u have tried to be there for him the best way u know how and he still continues I'm sorry u don't want to hear this but U DO NEED TO LEAVE. This make u unhappy SO why stick around crying all the time about it? Maybe u can go and stay with family or friends. Maybe u leaving would be a WAKE UP CALL FOR HIM TO GET HIS ACT TOGETHER OR ELSE!!
3. My ex was a gambler & never contributed anything towards the marriage other than her body & cooked the odd meal when she was home. Pawned her wedding ring to repay a debt to a friend & as I owned the house & the car, I kicked her out or asked her to leave,I continued to repay the mortgage as the house was in my name & not hers - She took me for half of my assets including half my business & I still continued to repay the mortgage, while she lived a life of luxury doing bugger all. I hope you lean & get some usefull info from this. Incidently I never once helped my ex out with her gambling debts, but I suggest that you contact a very good & free lawyer to see exactly where you stand in this situation as you might fiond that you could come away from this with a home, here's hoping for your sake!! Take care & be strong with whatever you choose!!!!