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He stopped talking to me after i confronted him about his gambling problem?

I was quite outspoken and i revealed how i feel about his gambling problem and it was quite upsetting. I did that because i care, now he ignores me, dsnt reply back to me, and he got incredibly hurt. We've crushed each other for a yr and a half. I just told him that his gambling problem is taking over himself and is driving him mad. I dont understand why he is acting this way with me.

Public Comments

1. Because people don't like it when you point out their faults. He either doesn't see his gambling as a problem, or he does and chooses not to admit it. He needs to get help.
2. You also called him on his biggest shortcoming. Good job. He's mad because he's not ready to face that it's a problem. Only when he realizes he has a problem and does something about it will he understand what you said was a good thing. It's an addiction just like a drug. I suggest you move on. He won't forgive you because you see him for what he is--a gambling addict.
3. most guys hate it when y'all tell us we have a problem with gambling. gambling is fun to an extant
4. he obviously needs to grow up or doesn't care about you as much to see that you did that out of love/caring I'd say give him his space let him come to you...if he doesn't realize what he's missing out.....then it's time to move on for you!
5. In all honesty, i do not see that what u did was wrong, he just doesn't appreciate ur deeds What u did, was out of genuine love, u only wanted him to overcome his flaws Do try make him understand ur concerns, b/c u don't want him to ruin his life, which would in turn hurt u, and i'm sure, deep down in eveyone's heart we all know whats good or bad for ourselves, we just simply lack the courage and the will to fight our inner demons on our own, b/c its scary and lonely Telling him that u would help him overcome his gambling, together with him, if only he is willing to change for the better, should ought to help him But do prepare for the worst, cos, to help someone, at least two parties must be willingly to cooperate, the one who provide help, and the one receiving it, if he doesn't want to change, then i strongly recommend u to leave him for good, i know this sounds extreme I am speaking as a son of a gambler father, and i have suffer enough of a troubled childhood, i don't want to see another repeation of me, if u are gonna to have children with ur current man, cos my mother end up a broken woman, and i am forced to grow up fast, a child who doesn't have a happy childhood, is really a painful thing, cos he is kinda alone in the world, very few pple can understand, if u do not think for urself, then at least think for the future of ur children On a closer note, seek professional help, if u do not know how to help him, and perpare urself that, there is a possiblity this habit of his might come back. what i can do here, is try to lay all the options, in the end is how u deal with it Do it with the right reasons, even if it's hard, may the lord be with u, and us all
6. Sounds like he is in denial. Gamblers usually do not believe they have a problem. They tend to continue on their problem until they lose it all or have an intervention. I know several gamblers that will not admit to being gamblers.. One has lost his home, his car and is now living in an apartment depending on his kids to take him back and forth to where he wants to go. the person I am talking about is my father in law. .... I would send him a card letting him know you care about him, that you will be there if he needs you. However give him time to realize that you care. Good luck. This site may help.. http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/